The Royal Wedding-The Reality of the Fairytale

I can't say that I actually watched the royal wedding because that would be lying and inevitably someone will catch me in that lie. So I can say that while I did not see the ceremony I did see the procession to Buckingham Palace in the 17th century carriage (please correct me if I'm wrong because it was 6 in the morning). I can also say that they looked absolutely in love and she is unquestionably a beautiful woman.

As you know every talk show today discussed the wedding, most people talked about the fashion and the 1 million people out there partying. I want to talk about the fairytale. I watched the queen of talk shows today, Oprah, and of course Oprah covered the wedding like only she can. It was a very entertaining show but she made a statement that stuck out to me. Oprah said , we all know that fairy tales are not true but we hope they have a great life together. True sentiment all around, the part that struck me was the we all know that fairy tales aren't real.

I don't think some women believe that, I find a lot of women think that some prince is going to ride up on a white horse and save them from their miserable lives. Honey, that ain't neva gonna happen. While I do believe The Duke and Duchess (see I learned something) love each other, they have a long road ahead of them. If 1 million people showed up to a wedding they were not invited to and over a billion people watched it on TV, you are going to be under such a microscope. Normal relationships can't handle a few family members and friends getting in their business. Just think if the Queen of England was your grandmother and everyone in the world had something to say about your relationship.

See ladies, that is the reality of the fairytale, its not a fairytale, it sucks on the highest degree and to be honest, I feel sorry for Kate (we can't even technically call her Kate anymore, it's Catherine). What a world that you can't even be called by the name you have always gone by. I just want everyone to understand, while the wedding was undoubtedly beautiful and elegant and prestigious. Just like the rest of us, after the wedding, real life steps in and let me tell you, she can be a bitch.

Good luck Kate!

Did you watch the royal wedding? What are your thoughts on the wedding? Do you believe in fairy tales?

You Complete Me

The other day I was on FB and one of my "friends" made the comment and I quote, "I am now off the market, I have found someone that completes me, please respect my relationship". The first thing that popped in my head was, why did you even have to post this in FB for the world to see? Did you do it because your new man wanted you to announce it to the world? Or because you wanted to send the message to some people that may have been interested in you? Whatever the case may be, it's your business and I'm okay with you shouting out to the world.

What I am not okay with is the statement of someone completing you. In the 1996 cult following movie Jerry Maguire, we all thought that was the sweetest thing in the world when Tom Cruise looked at Rene Zellweger and uttered the words, you. complete. me, women swooned and men said, yes..new line! However, really, can someone actually complete you? By saying that they can you are saying that you were never whole in the first place which normally translate into a bit of a needy person.

Think about it, if you complete someone and they truly believe that, that means, to them, you are somewhat responsible for their happiness and unhappiness because they needed you in the first place to feel complete. It's simple transference, from what I know about this particular person (all from her FB post), she has a lot of issues. She is dealing with abandonment issues and so are her children, she had a rough life growing up and I'm sure this man is a welcomed surprise. Hey we all have issues from our past and a few in our present lives, however when we start to depend on someone to fix those problems, well, then we have a problem.

What you should be looking for in a relationship is someone who compliments who you are and vice verse. Yes, your significant other should be able to help you through some obstacles, however, that should not be a requirement. We have to be careful about the things we say out loud, we speak it and it becomes reality. The only person that can complete you, is you, so get to work on finding you and leave the significant other to more important things, like just loving you.

How do you feel about the words "you complete me"? Do you think another person can really complete you? Lets discuss.

May 1st is Couple Appreciation Day

Did you know there is a day for couples to appreciate each other? You didn't, see that's what I'm here for. I have all the inside information. Couple Appreciation Day is May 1st and the greetings card company and the flower shops and the restaurants want you to celebrate. Seriously, you need someone to tell you to appreciate each other. I think I feel the same way about this day as I feel about Valentines Day (don't even get me started). We do we fall prey to the made up days, there is Valentines Day, Sweetheart Day, Step Mother's, wash your clothes day, brush your teeth day, well you get my point. As a couple you should appreciate each other, well not everyday, that takes to much time, but at least sometimes.

I mean I know that everyday is not a great day but there are some days that your mate comes in the house with your favorite take-out. Or they wash your car or clean the kitchen, they are showing you that they appreciate you and in return you do something nice for them. I'm not saying for you to do tick for tack but a little appreciation does go along way. My issue is, I don't want people to tell me that on this day I should do it. I like for things to be genuine so I won't be celebrating Couple Appreciation Day on May 1st, however May 2nd, that's all me.


Do you plan on celebrating Couple Appreciation Day on May 1st? If you are, tell us what you will be doing. If you decide not to, tell us why.

Being mad all the time...that's normal right

Relationships can be fun but most people don't seem to realize that. Last night I saw Madea's Big Happy Family and the relationships in that movie bordered psychotic...on the surface. The women were angry and mean and pissed all the time, the men were spineless and whiny and the type of men most women want...on the surface. The problem with all of those relationships were, no one was communicating.

In life women think men are just supposed to know what we are thinking and men think we should just do whatever it is they say both couldn't be anymore wrong. To make relatiosnhips work, people have to communicate, it's esential to the success of any relationship. If your mate, friend, parent, or boss never hears from you how you feel about anything you can't be upset when they don't understand your anger or whatever it is your feeling. Man up or woman up and treat your relationship like you want someone to treat you. Hopefully that's well.