I was recently approached by an ex asking if I wanted to hook up. I played it off because I thought maybe he was drunk or something and just talking. He called a couple of days later and asked "what about us". I thought, really, there is an us, who knew. I'm not really sure where this came from, he is married, I'm in a relationship and we have been friends forever.
He wanted to talk about us and we were finally able to do that, he asked me what I thought about us cheating. I told him that I didn't think about it, mostly I thought it was a joke and I didn't take it seriously. I told him that we have a lot to lose and are we really willing to sacrifice our relationships for sex. He agreed, more I think out of embarrassment than anything else and it got me to thinking.
I'm sure something is going on in his marriage however it's not for me to find out his issues. What I know for sure is, I can't let someone elses problem interfere with my life. It's easy for people to deal with relationships problems by going out and cheating or so they think. The true way to handle a problemis to deal with it head on, bringing someone to your problem only causes more problems. For him I think the issue is I'm comfortable so when he thinks about a uncomplicated relationship he thinks of me. The sad part is, I don't think of him like that.
Relationships are not easy, they are work, they can be complicated and messy, but they can also be beautiful and amazing. To get the beautiful and amazing takes work, instead of people looking for the easy way out of issues, take the path of what is true to your relationship. We should always follow the path of our truth, think of what a great world we would live in if we did.
